Today was Kaleb and Kali's well-check doctor appointment (Bennet's is tomorrow). As I was holding their hands walking into Mercy Clinic, I was overcome with thoughts of walking that path a year ago and how completely overwhelmed I was. I broke out in tears numerous times during the almost four hour appointment...the first time being the moment I signed their names onto the sign-in sheet. The women behind the counter didn't know what to think of me. I didn't know what to think of me. It wasn't really a me that I recognized. I remember being so frustrated with myself because I couldn't snap out of it. I wanted to put mind over matter and buck up and get a grip and deal with my life and pull myself together and all those things...but I wasn't able to do it that day...so I cried. And cried. And then cried a little bit more. I was embarrassed, but the water works wouldn't stop. It wasn't a bawling cry, just that constant lump in the throat, tears welled-up in the eyes, sneak a kleenex to your cheek, cry...you want to lie down and bawl your eyes out, but you can't. The kids never knew how much I was struggling that day.
Today, I was able to laugh at that memory.
While we were waiting to see the doctor, I told Kaleb and Kali all about me sitting there last year trying not to plop on the floor in fetal position, suck my thumb and wail. And then I told them that they don't scare me anymore...and we all three laughed and laughed and laughed. So much better than crying!!
They had great check-ups and are perfectly healthy. They are growing like weeds and doing great in every area; physically, mentally, spiritually. They are AMAZING kids. The doctor got to see them dance (oh my!) and as I told her our story (she's a new doctor for us), her response was, "God knew exactly what family to put these kids with". Indeed He did.
Our family is hysterical....so many funny things happen in this house on a daily basis...we laugh ALL the time around here. We fight sometimes, too. Thankfully, this past year has been one of MUCH laughing and very little fighting. God has blessed us beyond what we deserve, that is for sure.
People ask us if this adoption journey has been hard and Brian always answers, "It's not hard, it's just more". That's a good answer. Life is hard sometimes and when you add more people, there's potential to have more hard...BUT, life is really great, too, and we added a lot of great...it has way outweighed the hard. Thank You, Lord!!
Last night Gatlin took her three younger siblings out for a walk around the neighborhood...they ended up walking for over an hour and it became dark and a little chilly. I realized Gatlin didn't have her phone with her, so I hopped in the car to go find them and bring them home. They were almost home, but when they saw me they jumped in the car, glad to see me and thankful for the ride. Kali said, "I KNEW you would come and find us, Mom!" That made my heart so happy!!
In Psalm 30:11, the Psalmist writes, "You have turned my mourning into dancing, you have taken away my clothes of mourning and clothed me with joy". I'm so very grateful that the Lord is faithful to us. He has been faithful to Bennet, Kaleb and Kali and he has been faithful to Brian, Wendi, Cooper and Gatlin...and this past year He has shown this group of Greens His beautiful, unfailing, extravagant love in way too many ways to count.
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
Sunday, December 25, 2011
Our Christmas Letter...
It's hard to believe that a year ago we were on our way to Ethiopia to meet our three new kiddos for the first time. We spent Christmas day in London eating fish-n-chips in a not-so-great pub, freezing our tushies off walking around London on our site seeing tour, Gatlin and I falling asleep on the tour bus cause the jet lag was so bad, and almost missing our flight to Ethiopia cause nobody in the London airport seemed to know where our gate was -- but I'm not complaining cause it all made for a great memory and fun story to tell.
Fast forward a year...we were sleeping peacefully in our own comfy bed when three little black children excitedly ran into our room to wake us up to start the Christmas celebration! LOL Thankfully, it was 8:30 (I've trained them well - ha!) And it seemed perfectly normal to me.
Isn't that amazing! In the 10 months that the kids have been here, it's gone from a few weeks of feeling completely overwhelmed, to a few months of, "Ok, I can do this", to a couple more months of, "Getting kind of used to this", to now..."Can't imagine life any other way". There have been some emotional ups and downs, that's for sure, but if I've learned anything at all this year, I've learned that it's just not about me and I MUST keep an eternal perspective in ALL things in life. That isn't always easy, but it is imperative for a joy-filled life. I want to choose joy.
All five of our kids are doing really great. Kaleb and Kali are loving first grade and doing so well. Bennet is doing wonderfully in school, but that has been one of the biggest challenges for us...not having to do with Bennet, but just the communication between us and the school as to Bennet's needs and how to meet them. We finally got the kinks worked out and things are running smoothly now. She loves to read and it's been so fun to watch her dive into a book and not want to put it down. It does blow me away that she's only been here 10 months and is flying through 3rd grade level books now - I'm so proud of her. Gatlin is making all A's except in Algebra, and she has a high B in that one. It has been such an adjustment for her to go from homeschooling to a difficult private school, but she's doing great! I'm very proud of her for making such good grades and feel quite relieved, actually. ha!! I mean, I know she's smart, but when you home school and then put them in a school, there is a sigh of relief once you know they are doing well (and not just doing well, but excelling). Whew! Cooper is still homeschooling and doing great. He is taking Spanish through a tutorial and is making a strong A in there, so that's great. Homeschooling is such a great choice for him because it gives him such freedom to work on his music and to teach his guitar students. So proud of him and his strong work ethic.
Brian is super busy these days, which is a HUGE blessing cause a couple months ago he didn't have work lined up and it was a bit scary, to be honest! I've told this story a couple times, so if you've heard it before, sorry...but when we started the adoption process, we told the Lord that we'd eat peanut butter and jelly if we had to, but that we wanted to provide a life for these kids, and even a life filled with PB & J would be better than the life they had in an orphanage because they'd have the love of a family. Anyway, this year got pretty tight financially and I found myself just a little worried and crying out to the Lord telling Him that I didn't mean it -- I didn't really want to eat PB & J -- I wanted some steak! You understand. And, really, we have never gone without, it's just been different. God is faithful and has provided everything we need and even things we want. We are blessed.
I have to tell you that there have been friends that have been extremely generous to us this year. We've had many friends give us hand-me-down clothes but a few that have just gone above and beyond and continually send us boxes!! There's probably not a day that goes by that Kaleb isn't wearing something given to us by my friend, Shelli, and Kali is constantly in something from my friends, Tish and Courtney. Bennet has been blessed by my friend, Kimmy, and Moriah keeps blessing Gatlin. And MANY others have given us clothes -- it has been a HUGE, huge blessing! It blows me away! Thank you from the bottom of my heart, sweet friends!
So, clothes weren't something we needed at Christmas (ha!) but Forever 21 did have an on-line clearance that was unbeatable so Gatlin got a couple new things, which was fun for her. We got all the kids a pair of shoes -- the two big kids got Tom's and the three young ones got boots that they had mentioned liking. Then they each got two other gifts from our family and a gift from Nana and Papa and Uncle Jack and Aunt Lora. And then Uncle Jim blew us away with his generosity towards all of us. We are blessed by him and how he loves our family so well.
We enjoyed a casual lunch with our gang plus Uncle Jim and Cooper's girlfriend, Brianna. Yep, that's big news this year...Cooper has a girlfriend. We all love Brianna and it was great to have her here with us for Christmas as her family went out of town but she had to work and couldn't go with them. That worked out well for Cooper! LOL She and Cooper have been close friends for a year and a half, but decided a few weeks ago to start dating. Cooper is 17 and Brianna is 18 so they're at a good age and are displaying wonderful maturity and godliness in the whole dating/courting process. It will be exciting to see what the Lord does with/through their relationship.
Gatlin and Kali made a birthday cake for Jesus and decorated it so nicely. We sang Happy Birthday and blew out the candle and celebrated THE life that gives all of us life. How blessed we are to know JESUS! How blessed we are to have brought three children into our family and now we get the privilege of helping them grow in their relationship with Him. It just doesn't get any better than that. All we have, all we are, EVERYTHING is because of HIM.
One of Bennet's gifts today was to inherit her brother's old computer (a nice little Mac Mini, because Cooper bought himself a laptop) and so now she has an email account set up so she can email her family. I was the recipient of her first email and it said, "Thank you for the gifts. This was the first and the best Christmas ever. Thank you so much and I love you very much". Makes me cry again just typing it here. Good grief, ya'll...it's AMAZING to think that somehow God allowed us to be a piece in the puzzle of a transformed life. Humbled.
One last thing, today my sister left to go get her little boy, Crew, from Ethiopia. It's been a year since they started the adoption process and it's been quite the roller coaster ride. But, God is faithful to finish what He started and they will be home on Wednesday. The timing is perfect for us to jump in the car and actually get to be there for their airport arrival. How awesome is that!! I can't wait to grab that little guy up and squeeze him. I can't wait for him to see that he has cousins that look like him. In a sea of white people, that's a special thing!! Woo hoo!!
I pray that you've all had a wonderful Christmas and that you know the joy that comes from knowing Jesus as your personal Savior. Be blessed!
Saturday, September 17, 2011
The Story of Crew Dawit Coder...
Monday is a VERY important day for my sister's family....the US Embassy will be interviewing the man who found their little boy and took him to the orphanage. They will question his story and make sure that everything he is saying is legit. After his interview, they will decide if they believe that Crew is, indeed, a true abandoned orphan, and their decision will determine if he will come home to the Coder family.
I wanted to take a minute and share the story of Crew - it's an amazing God-thing! I won't give all the details of the story, cause those are theirs to share, but I'll tell you a little bit about my part in it cause it's pretty incredible. I was looking at some pictures that my friend, Kelly Putty, had posted from a recent trip to Ethiopia she'd been on. I was just glancing at all the amazing pictures when I scrolled down to one of her daughter holding a little boy - and my heart almost leapt out of my chest. I KNEW that was supposed to be my sister's son. I just KNEW it. I emailed the agency director immediately and just casually asked her how many boys she was able to put on the referral list since she had just returned from Ethiopia herself. I asked her if she thought that any of them would be my sister's son since they had started the process and were waiting for a referral. She proceeded to tell me that she had exactly the amount of boys for the people she had on the waiting list, EXCEPT she might have one boy left and my sister was next. Ok, I pulled the picture of the little boy off Kelly's blog and I emailed it to Sue. I said, "Is this the boy, because I believe this little boy is supposed to be my sister's son".
It was, and now, he is. Isn't God cool?! I just love stuff like that. I still have the email to Sue telling her how my heart jumped when I saw him and I just knew he was meant to be with my sister. It's also really wild because he was actually referred to another family first as an infant, but then through a serious of events in Ethiopia, wasn't able to go with that family and they got another referral and brought their little boy home a year ago. When I was asking Sue if that was him, she wasn't sure he was going to be available because she was waiting to find out if that other family could take him at this point, but since they had just adopted the other referral, they couldn't. It's a long, complicated story, but it's an amazing story of God's hand because that other family lives 10 minutes from me and has been able to meet my sister through FB and pray for them as they bring Crew home. So now they know that he is going to a loving, Christian home and have such a wonderful peace about it. And their little boy is the sweetest thing you've ever seen. Both these precious boys are in exactly the family that God meant them to be in. Miraculous!!
So, Monday is a huge day and I'd like to ask you to spend some time Sunday night praying for little Crew and my sister's family. Oh, how we'd love to hear a "HE IS YOURS" from the US Embassy! Those words will be sweet music to our ears! I can't wait til Crew gets to the Coder home and is surrounded by his four awesome siblings and his amazing Mommy and Daddy - and of course, all his fabulous cousins and Aunts and Uncles. I just want to squeeze him so hard. LOL
Check my FB page on Monday - I'll let you know as soon as I know. I'm praying and believing for GOOD NEWS!
I wanted to take a minute and share the story of Crew - it's an amazing God-thing! I won't give all the details of the story, cause those are theirs to share, but I'll tell you a little bit about my part in it cause it's pretty incredible. I was looking at some pictures that my friend, Kelly Putty, had posted from a recent trip to Ethiopia she'd been on. I was just glancing at all the amazing pictures when I scrolled down to one of her daughter holding a little boy - and my heart almost leapt out of my chest. I KNEW that was supposed to be my sister's son. I just KNEW it. I emailed the agency director immediately and just casually asked her how many boys she was able to put on the referral list since she had just returned from Ethiopia herself. I asked her if she thought that any of them would be my sister's son since they had started the process and were waiting for a referral. She proceeded to tell me that she had exactly the amount of boys for the people she had on the waiting list, EXCEPT she might have one boy left and my sister was next. Ok, I pulled the picture of the little boy off Kelly's blog and I emailed it to Sue. I said, "Is this the boy, because I believe this little boy is supposed to be my sister's son".
It was, and now, he is. Isn't God cool?! I just love stuff like that. I still have the email to Sue telling her how my heart jumped when I saw him and I just knew he was meant to be with my sister. It's also really wild because he was actually referred to another family first as an infant, but then through a serious of events in Ethiopia, wasn't able to go with that family and they got another referral and brought their little boy home a year ago. When I was asking Sue if that was him, she wasn't sure he was going to be available because she was waiting to find out if that other family could take him at this point, but since they had just adopted the other referral, they couldn't. It's a long, complicated story, but it's an amazing story of God's hand because that other family lives 10 minutes from me and has been able to meet my sister through FB and pray for them as they bring Crew home. So now they know that he is going to a loving, Christian home and have such a wonderful peace about it. And their little boy is the sweetest thing you've ever seen. Both these precious boys are in exactly the family that God meant them to be in. Miraculous!!
So, Monday is a huge day and I'd like to ask you to spend some time Sunday night praying for little Crew and my sister's family. Oh, how we'd love to hear a "HE IS YOURS" from the US Embassy! Those words will be sweet music to our ears! I can't wait til Crew gets to the Coder home and is surrounded by his four awesome siblings and his amazing Mommy and Daddy - and of course, all his fabulous cousins and Aunts and Uncles. I just want to squeeze him so hard. LOL
Check my FB page on Monday - I'll let you know as soon as I know. I'm praying and believing for GOOD NEWS!
Sunday, September 4, 2011
The Crazy Days of Summer (THE CONCLUSION!)...
We got to Oklahoma super late so we just did our best to tiptoe into my mom's house - I think we did a pretty good job, or at least they were too nice to let us know we were loud and rude. ha!! We're always so thankful to get to stay at my mom's house as we have the whole upstairs to ourselves and there's a bed for everyone. Well, an air mattress for Cooper, but it's a nice one! (:
It was wonderful to have no agenda for a couple days -- just sit around and relax and do nothing - ah, loved it!! Mom has been fighting the cancer fight so she still tires easily, yet she was up serving the kids breakfast and making sure they were taken care of. She let me sleep. Now, how sweet is that!!
Gatlin and I ended up going school supply shopping at the Coweta Walmart. Oh yes, it was a treat! Seriously, we probably spent almost two hours there. Gatlin could NOT make up her mind even about simple school supplies. How hard can it be to pick a folder - just grab one already! Oh my!! I seriously shopped for three other children while she got her supplies, and I finished before her -- way before her. Goodness. We went home and got everything out of the packages and labeled everything. But then there's this one little funny part, AFTER I did all that, I saw a post from a friend about being glad she pre-ordered the supply kit from her school, and something about that sounded familiar. And yep, AFTER all that shopping and labeling, I had already pre-ordered the kits for Kaleb and Kali but had forgotten - hysterical!. So, we have their supplies for next year. Woo hoo.
My sister's family came over for dinner and we just did a whole bunch of nothing - well, other than that labeling school supplies stuff. The kids love being with their cousins and I'm quite positive that Bennet is hoping that the whole, "You can't marry cousins" thing is a lie. LOL She has quite the crush on her 16-year-old cousin, Kason. Sweet.
The next morning we had breakfast with my dad and Viva at The Cracker Barrel. Yum. Had a really nice visit with them and enjoyed eating all the biscuits we could fit in our bellies. I do love those biscuits.
It was off to my sister's house after that to hang out and let the kids swim. Cooper picked up a guitar as soon as we walked in the house. He hadn't been able to take one on the trip so was having serious withdraws!! It was so nice to hear him playing again. I forced my sister to make cookies (these are the ones that I used to be famous for, but can't seem to make right anymore). My 90-year-old grandma came over for dinner and we visited while helping Gatlin do a book report project for school.
On Sunday, Brian, Cooper, Gatlin and I got up super early to go to The Church at Battle Creek where we were leading worship. This is my mom and Jim's church and it's an awesome place. Alex Himaya is the pastor there and he and his wife, Meredith, just adopted a little girl named, Lemley, from Ethiopia. Alex preached a sermon years ago that was a catalyst to us making the decision to adopt. God used him in a big way in our lives. And, then, in a funny little twist, God used me in their lives as well, as I was the one who sent them a picture of Lemley and told them that I thought she was supposed to be their daughter. My mom and I prayed over that little picture so hard and were so very happy when the Himaya's chose to adopt her. Now they have her home and, wow, what an incredible little girl. SO, it was wonderful to be at their church with them and we had a great time leading worship for their services.
We ate lunch and just chilled out the rest of the day....said our goodbyes that night and headed out the next morning for home. I LOVE my family and it's always hard to say goodbye. I'm so thankful that we'll be going back SOON to see my new nephew, Crew, when he gets here. (And I'm pretty sure my next blog post will be about him and his amazing story). We drove the 9 1/2 hour drive home and were so very grateful to be back in our own comfy beds again.
And THAT was our summer in a nutshell. ha ha ha ha ha Ok, I know, it was a BIG nut. (: Honestly, the summer couldn't have been any busier, which made it fly by! I hate to admit this, but I still don't quite have everything put away from our trip. I've unpacked it, but some of it is still on the floor waiting for me to actually put it somewhere. That's pitiful. But the kids started school two days after we got home and it's just right back to crazy around here. Blah blah blah...you know how it is.
On August 19, we celebrated the kids being here for six months. SO much has changed for our family. There are easy days and there are hard days, just like in any other family. Thank you for continuing to pray for us as we still adjust to all the things that need to be adjusted to when you adopt three kids and go from being a family of four to a family of seven. It's a wild ride, to be sure. But, it is a ride worth taking.
It was wonderful to have no agenda for a couple days -- just sit around and relax and do nothing - ah, loved it!! Mom has been fighting the cancer fight so she still tires easily, yet she was up serving the kids breakfast and making sure they were taken care of. She let me sleep. Now, how sweet is that!!
Gatlin and I ended up going school supply shopping at the Coweta Walmart. Oh yes, it was a treat! Seriously, we probably spent almost two hours there. Gatlin could NOT make up her mind even about simple school supplies. How hard can it be to pick a folder - just grab one already! Oh my!! I seriously shopped for three other children while she got her supplies, and I finished before her -- way before her. Goodness. We went home and got everything out of the packages and labeled everything. But then there's this one little funny part, AFTER I did all that, I saw a post from a friend about being glad she pre-ordered the supply kit from her school, and something about that sounded familiar. And yep, AFTER all that shopping and labeling, I had already pre-ordered the kits for Kaleb and Kali but had forgotten - hysterical!. So, we have their supplies for next year. Woo hoo.
My sister's family came over for dinner and we just did a whole bunch of nothing - well, other than that labeling school supplies stuff. The kids love being with their cousins and I'm quite positive that Bennet is hoping that the whole, "You can't marry cousins" thing is a lie. LOL She has quite the crush on her 16-year-old cousin, Kason. Sweet.
The next morning we had breakfast with my dad and Viva at The Cracker Barrel. Yum. Had a really nice visit with them and enjoyed eating all the biscuits we could fit in our bellies. I do love those biscuits.
It was off to my sister's house after that to hang out and let the kids swim. Cooper picked up a guitar as soon as we walked in the house. He hadn't been able to take one on the trip so was having serious withdraws!! It was so nice to hear him playing again. I forced my sister to make cookies (these are the ones that I used to be famous for, but can't seem to make right anymore). My 90-year-old grandma came over for dinner and we visited while helping Gatlin do a book report project for school.
On Sunday, Brian, Cooper, Gatlin and I got up super early to go to The Church at Battle Creek where we were leading worship. This is my mom and Jim's church and it's an awesome place. Alex Himaya is the pastor there and he and his wife, Meredith, just adopted a little girl named, Lemley, from Ethiopia. Alex preached a sermon years ago that was a catalyst to us making the decision to adopt. God used him in a big way in our lives. And, then, in a funny little twist, God used me in their lives as well, as I was the one who sent them a picture of Lemley and told them that I thought she was supposed to be their daughter. My mom and I prayed over that little picture so hard and were so very happy when the Himaya's chose to adopt her. Now they have her home and, wow, what an incredible little girl. SO, it was wonderful to be at their church with them and we had a great time leading worship for their services.
We ate lunch and just chilled out the rest of the day....said our goodbyes that night and headed out the next morning for home. I LOVE my family and it's always hard to say goodbye. I'm so thankful that we'll be going back SOON to see my new nephew, Crew, when he gets here. (And I'm pretty sure my next blog post will be about him and his amazing story). We drove the 9 1/2 hour drive home and were so very grateful to be back in our own comfy beds again.
And THAT was our summer in a nutshell. ha ha ha ha ha Ok, I know, it was a BIG nut. (: Honestly, the summer couldn't have been any busier, which made it fly by! I hate to admit this, but I still don't quite have everything put away from our trip. I've unpacked it, but some of it is still on the floor waiting for me to actually put it somewhere. That's pitiful. But the kids started school two days after we got home and it's just right back to crazy around here. Blah blah blah...you know how it is.
On August 19, we celebrated the kids being here for six months. SO much has changed for our family. There are easy days and there are hard days, just like in any other family. Thank you for continuing to pray for us as we still adjust to all the things that need to be adjusted to when you adopt three kids and go from being a family of four to a family of seven. It's a wild ride, to be sure. But, it is a ride worth taking.
The Crazy Days of Summer (part 5)...
Some of you may know that we have been friends with the Cyrus family for many years. Tish (Miley's mom) and I were best friends when they lived here in Tennessee and I actually baptized her prior to their family moving out to Los Angeles (it was a sweet, private "ceremony" and our pastor baptized the rest of the family). I used to take Miley on auditions with me back when she was about 10 years old...she would always book them and I wouldn't (little brat! ha!!). Back then, Cooper had a recurring role on a show called, "Yes, Dear", and on one of our trips to go out to CA for that, I asked Tish if I could take Miley with us and introduce her to our agency. She said yes, and when I took Miley into CESD, our agent, Margot, signed her up on the spot. About six months later, Miley landed the role in Hannah Montana....and the rest is history.
I tell you that story just because it sets up the next part of this post. It would take way too long to tell the whole story, and I'm not even sure I would, but starting about four years ago, someone began trying very hard to drive a wedge between me and Tish. It was a very difficult season for me, but I just kept reminding myself (and wonderful friends kept reminding me) that "truth and time walk hand in hand". Tish and I have always remained friends, but it was just a bit different - a bit unsure - both of us being fed false information, but neither of us knowing it. Anyway, the timing was pretty wild because one day, after two years, the truth was known by all involved and the veil was lifted. Tish called and we discussed the series of events. The air was cleared. Things resolved.
A short while after that, Tish called to ask me to pray about a decision that Billy Ray was making regarding a possible job. They weren't sure whether he should accept the role or not so she was wanting me to pray about it with her. We talked for about 30 minutes and then at the very end of that conversation, I told her that we were considering adopting a sibling set of three and I asked her to pray about that for/with me. The words she spoke next still blow me away to this day. She told me that they wanted to help us pay for the adoption. I assured her that that wasn't the reason I told her about it, but she knew that. She told me to keep her posted on what we decided and if we decided to do it, she was there to help us.
AND, to make this very long story a little bit shorter, we did and she did. (: They ended up paying for a large chunk of our adoption expenses. Without their financial blessing, I just don't know how we could have done it. We raised the rest of the money and had help from so many amazing friends, but the amount that Tish gave us was above and beyond anything we could have ever imagined, and we will forever be grateful. I knew I wanted to do something special as a thank you and thought that it would be great if I could give one of the kids a middle name from their family to honor them. I began going through African girl's names that meant "joy" because that was what I saw when I saw Bennet's face in the first picture I ever saw of her. And guess what, there it was, right there on the African-girl's-names that-mean-joy list - Leticia. THAT is Tish's name! It means "joy". It's African. What?? Come on!! That is SO GOD. And from that moment, Bennet became Bennet Leticia.
So, on Tuesday, we spent time with Bennet's namesake and the rest of them there Cyrus people. We hung out at their home just talking and taking pictures. We all had a wonderful time, but Tish and Bennet have a special connection. Tish lit up talking to Bennet and you could just see a love for her that was sweet and special. Tish said to me, "I want to be a big part of her life". I am praying that God will arrange moments for them to spend some time together and get to know each other a little bit. Oh, one little funny thing, Tish says Leticia, LeTISHa....but Bennet says it in this most beautiful African accent - it's Le-tea-c-ah. It's so sweet. So, Tish in her country accent said, "Yes! That's how it's supposed to be said, ya'll". Too cute!
I tell you that story just because it sets up the next part of this post. It would take way too long to tell the whole story, and I'm not even sure I would, but starting about four years ago, someone began trying very hard to drive a wedge between me and Tish. It was a very difficult season for me, but I just kept reminding myself (and wonderful friends kept reminding me) that "truth and time walk hand in hand". Tish and I have always remained friends, but it was just a bit different - a bit unsure - both of us being fed false information, but neither of us knowing it. Anyway, the timing was pretty wild because one day, after two years, the truth was known by all involved and the veil was lifted. Tish called and we discussed the series of events. The air was cleared. Things resolved.
A short while after that, Tish called to ask me to pray about a decision that Billy Ray was making regarding a possible job. They weren't sure whether he should accept the role or not so she was wanting me to pray about it with her. We talked for about 30 minutes and then at the very end of that conversation, I told her that we were considering adopting a sibling set of three and I asked her to pray about that for/with me. The words she spoke next still blow me away to this day. She told me that they wanted to help us pay for the adoption. I assured her that that wasn't the reason I told her about it, but she knew that. She told me to keep her posted on what we decided and if we decided to do it, she was there to help us.
AND, to make this very long story a little bit shorter, we did and she did. (: They ended up paying for a large chunk of our adoption expenses. Without their financial blessing, I just don't know how we could have done it. We raised the rest of the money and had help from so many amazing friends, but the amount that Tish gave us was above and beyond anything we could have ever imagined, and we will forever be grateful. I knew I wanted to do something special as a thank you and thought that it would be great if I could give one of the kids a middle name from their family to honor them. I began going through African girl's names that meant "joy" because that was what I saw when I saw Bennet's face in the first picture I ever saw of her. And guess what, there it was, right there on the African-girl's-names that-mean-joy list - Leticia. THAT is Tish's name! It means "joy". It's African. What?? Come on!! That is SO GOD. And from that moment, Bennet became Bennet Leticia.
So, on Tuesday, we spent time with Bennet's namesake and the rest of them there Cyrus people. We hung out at their home just talking and taking pictures. We all had a wonderful time, but Tish and Bennet have a special connection. Tish lit up talking to Bennet and you could just see a love for her that was sweet and special. Tish said to me, "I want to be a big part of her life". I am praying that God will arrange moments for them to spend some time together and get to know each other a little bit. Oh, one little funny thing, Tish says Leticia, LeTISHa....but Bennet says it in this most beautiful African accent - it's Le-tea-c-ah. It's so sweet. So, Tish in her country accent said, "Yes! That's how it's supposed to be said, ya'll". Too cute!
After our time with them, we took Cooper and Gatlin over to take their head shots with Deihdra and the rest of us grabbed lunch. We got to say a quick hello to my sweet friend, Jonna, and it was great to see her. After our lunch, we picked Coop and Gat up and headed to the kid's agency to say hi to everyone there. It was great to see everyone at CESD and to introduce them to the new kids. The twins were "on" and it was hysterical. Bennet was a little shy, which was also hysterical.
We were late getting home so just spent the night packing to leave the next morning. Cooper ended up having an audition the next day so we didn't pull out of Los Angeles until about 3:00. We headed for Albuquerque. Stayed the night there and then it was on to Oklahoma to be with my family for a few days!
To be continued (but it'll be the last one, I promise!)...
The Crazy Days of Summer (part 4)...
First, I feel the need to promise you that I'm almost done with the summer post! Geez...I need to learn how to make a long story short!! But, this blog will become the new kids "life book" of sorts, so I definitely don't want to leave anything out. I found out about this place that takes your blog posts and makes them into a book -- how cool is that?! Gonna do that, for sure. Ok, back to the post...
We ended up sleeping in on Sunday and skipping church since Cooper had Strep. All of us were tired from the beach and the dinner party the night before, so we just enjoyed sleeping in and taking it easy before heading to Orange County on Sunday afternoon. Thankfully, when Cooper woke up, he was starting to feel much better.
We headed to Santa Ana, which is where I grew up. I had told the new kiddos that I'd lived there when I was little and they really wanted to see my house. So, just like we had done with Cooper and Gatlin a few years ago, we went to my old house, took pictures out front, and then walked the path to my old elementary school. I always cry on this nostalgic outing. It gets me every time. I guess because it was a time of such innocence and the memories come flooding back. My parents were together - that's a biggy that turns on the faucet. Anyway, we walked across the bridge and down the street to the school and I told them all about Brad Fartenessy, the boy who liked to chase me home from school and scare me. His last name was actually, Fautenessy, but we always called him Fartenessy. They laughed.
After that little side trip, we headed over to my Aunt Sharon's house for dinner with some of my family. I love my Aunt Sharon so much. She and my Uncle Steve live in a sweet, simple home in Placentia, and there is just something about being with them that is so safe and comforting for me. Interestingly, Gatlin said the same thing this trip. I don't mean this to sound weird (if you're reading this Aunt Sharon, this is meant as a compliment), but they don't have as much "stuff" as we do and I think that the simplification is comforting. Does that make sense? It's nice to go there and sit outside and sip tea and talk. Brian, Cooper, Bennet, Kaleb and Kali played soccer in the backyard and Gatlin played in the kid's room the whole time. No TV was on. No Wii or XBox were set up. Maybe they have all those things and they just don't get them out when we're there -- and for that, I'm thankful. (If you do, keep hiding them when we're there, Aunt Sharon! ha!!). Aunt Sharon always makes us feel so welcome and loved. We enjoyed dinner with the family and then had to scoot out early to see my friend, Sheri.
Sheri Rose Shepherd is one of my very favorite people. Some of you may know her from her books or speaking engagements. She's one of the most wonderful people I know and I was so thankful that we got to spend a little time with her and her family that night. We hung out in their lovely home and she served us beautiful, healthy desserts. The kids loved her little puppy and we had a really nice visit before we headed out to the hotel for the night. Across the street from Disneyland!
A huge blessing given to us this trip was tickets to Disneyland. A friend of ours (who we met through my Aunt Sharon), Matt Davis, hooked us up with them through a friend of his who works there. We would not have been able to go had we had to pay for tickets - it's just more than we can spend right now on something that's not a necessity. But, what a treat it was to get to take the kids there because of the kindness of others! It was crazy hot and the lines were long, but we had a wonderful time and were so grateful we got to be there. I can't remember everyone's favorite rides, but I do know that the California Screaming roller coaster was definitely a "go out with a bang" ending! They all LOVED that! It was a great day and we walked out of the park as the fireworks were lighting up the sky over our heads.
Growing up, I could see the Disneyland fireworks from my bathroom window. I loved watching them each and every time I was allowed to stay up that late. To this day, watching fireworks is one of my very favorite things!
On Tuesday, we had planned to spend a little time with the Cyrus family. I'll start a new post with this part of the story, cause it's a bit of a story in itself.
To be continued...
We ended up sleeping in on Sunday and skipping church since Cooper had Strep. All of us were tired from the beach and the dinner party the night before, so we just enjoyed sleeping in and taking it easy before heading to Orange County on Sunday afternoon. Thankfully, when Cooper woke up, he was starting to feel much better.
We headed to Santa Ana, which is where I grew up. I had told the new kiddos that I'd lived there when I was little and they really wanted to see my house. So, just like we had done with Cooper and Gatlin a few years ago, we went to my old house, took pictures out front, and then walked the path to my old elementary school. I always cry on this nostalgic outing. It gets me every time. I guess because it was a time of such innocence and the memories come flooding back. My parents were together - that's a biggy that turns on the faucet. Anyway, we walked across the bridge and down the street to the school and I told them all about Brad Fartenessy, the boy who liked to chase me home from school and scare me. His last name was actually, Fautenessy, but we always called him Fartenessy. They laughed.
After that little side trip, we headed over to my Aunt Sharon's house for dinner with some of my family. I love my Aunt Sharon so much. She and my Uncle Steve live in a sweet, simple home in Placentia, and there is just something about being with them that is so safe and comforting for me. Interestingly, Gatlin said the same thing this trip. I don't mean this to sound weird (if you're reading this Aunt Sharon, this is meant as a compliment), but they don't have as much "stuff" as we do and I think that the simplification is comforting. Does that make sense? It's nice to go there and sit outside and sip tea and talk. Brian, Cooper, Bennet, Kaleb and Kali played soccer in the backyard and Gatlin played in the kid's room the whole time. No TV was on. No Wii or XBox were set up. Maybe they have all those things and they just don't get them out when we're there -- and for that, I'm thankful. (If you do, keep hiding them when we're there, Aunt Sharon! ha!!). Aunt Sharon always makes us feel so welcome and loved. We enjoyed dinner with the family and then had to scoot out early to see my friend, Sheri.
Sheri Rose Shepherd is one of my very favorite people. Some of you may know her from her books or speaking engagements. She's one of the most wonderful people I know and I was so thankful that we got to spend a little time with her and her family that night. We hung out in their lovely home and she served us beautiful, healthy desserts. The kids loved her little puppy and we had a really nice visit before we headed out to the hotel for the night. Across the street from Disneyland!
A huge blessing given to us this trip was tickets to Disneyland. A friend of ours (who we met through my Aunt Sharon), Matt Davis, hooked us up with them through a friend of his who works there. We would not have been able to go had we had to pay for tickets - it's just more than we can spend right now on something that's not a necessity. But, what a treat it was to get to take the kids there because of the kindness of others! It was crazy hot and the lines were long, but we had a wonderful time and were so grateful we got to be there. I can't remember everyone's favorite rides, but I do know that the California Screaming roller coaster was definitely a "go out with a bang" ending! They all LOVED that! It was a great day and we walked out of the park as the fireworks were lighting up the sky over our heads.
Growing up, I could see the Disneyland fireworks from my bathroom window. I loved watching them each and every time I was allowed to stay up that late. To this day, watching fireworks is one of my very favorite things!
On Tuesday, we had planned to spend a little time with the Cyrus family. I'll start a new post with this part of the story, cause it's a bit of a story in itself.
To be continued...
Saturday, August 20, 2011
The Crazy Days of Summer (part 3)...
And so, bright and early Monday morning, the 7 of us loaded into our 8 passenger SUV (the small kind) and started singing, "California, here I come...". Actually, there was no singing...most of us aren't morning people. ha! But, we did squeeze into the car (luggage rack on top) and we did start the long day's drive. The seating arrangement for pretty much the entire trip was, Brian and Cooper in the front (height won over age), Gatlin and Bennet in the middle (with one seat down in that middle row so that the computer could be there for movie watching, and so I could stretch out my legs onto that seat, when needed, as I've had four knee operations and can't have them bent for long periods of time - yes, insert sad violin music here). We made a hotel reservation in Amarillo for the night, and drove the 15ish hours to get there. Honestly, not too bad. I find the car to be relaxing - it's just really nice not to be able to do anything but sit there and fall in and out of sleep. We got to Amarillo at 11:00. Went to sleep and got up early the next morning to do the same thing again.
However, I thought that both days were going to be 15ish hours of driving...lo and behold, the second day was 17ish hours. Fun stuff right there. So, after 17ish hours of driving that day, we made it to California. People asked me why we didn't divide it into three days, but honestly, we just wanted to kick it out and get there. I have family in Oklahoma so we could have stayed there, but then it would have been getting it all out of the car and putting it all back...nope, just decided to suck it up and go for it. Cooper help Brian a little with the driving, so it just really wasn't that bad.
**inserting an important note** As soon as we found the first In-n-Out burger on our journey, we stopped and ate there! We absolutely LOVE In-n-Out and thank the Lord, the new kids do, too. It would have been tragic had they not. ha!! Crisis averted.
Now, I have to tell you that we had THREE people offer to let us stay with them so that we didn't have to incur hotel expenses. Isn't that amazing! Friends that offer to let SEVEN of you stay in their home are true friends, indeed! Our awesome friend, Laura, actually moved out of her house and into another friend's house so that we could have her place to ourselves and nobody would have to sleep on the floor. Can you believe how wonderful my friends are!!!
We hit the ground running in CA and it was first things first - a trip to the salon to get hair cuts for everyone. We have a great guy in Tennessee that we use, but we also adore our girl, Ivonne, out there, so we wanted to not only stop in and see her, but also let her make us all beautiful for our time there. We rotated in and out of her place and figured out which of our favorite eateries we would hit first. We decided on Philippe's in downtown Los Angeles, which is famous for their dipped beef sandwiches. They are SO good and I crave them often. Our friends, the Shada family, joined us for lunch and it was wonderful to see them AND have a delicious lunch!
It was really great cause we were there on a Wednesday and Cooper was very excited to go to Wednesday night youth group. We are so blessed to have fabulous churches both here and there and the kids are active at both. Cooper has often led worship for the youth group out there and was thankful to get to hang with his buddies that night. On one of the days (I just can't remember which one) we had lunch with the Roberts family. Dave is the pastor of our church out there (Montrose Church) and his wife, Cyndi, is a sweet friend of mine, and their two youngest daughters, Sunni and Brandi, are friends with Cooper and Gatlin. They treated us to a delicious Chinese lunch and I was so glad that we got to spend a little time with them and that they got to meet the new kiddos!
Thursday was a busy day because we were blessed by a professional photographer named, Deidhra Fahey, who offered to take pictures of our family for FREE. This one brought me to tears because I have been wanting new pictures so badly, but just haven't been able to spend the money on it right now. So, when my friend told me that Deidhra wanted to gift us with a photo session, I was just blown out of the water. A true blessing from God. Honestly, I'm not making enough of this....I had been thinking about this pretty much every day for a long time cause we just don't have very many pictures of the new kids in our house. Honestly, we don't have a lot of pictures of anyone, but we do have a couple large pictures of Cooper and Gatlin from when they were younger and I've been wanting to replace those with a family picture and then individual pictures of each of the kids. But, like I said, that costs money, and when you've just adopted three kids, there's not much (if any!) left over...so, we just haven't been able to look into getting pictures made. Deidhra blessed our socks off. She took individual pictures of each of the kids, and then the five of them together and then our family. THEN, to top it off, she asked if Cooper and Gatlin could come back another day so that she could take head shots of them for their acting!! The pictures she took are AWESOME! I will admit to breaking down like a baby and crying in her den when I saw them. It blows me away when people do stuff like that as a blessing for me. It is just so humbling. I can't express the gratitude I have for Deihdra and the blessing of the pictures.
From there we went straight over to a studio taping of the Disney XD show, "Pair of Kings". My friend, Kathy Musso, got tickets for us to see the taping and meet the entire cast. Honestly, could I be anymore blessed by my friends, I don't think so!! What a BLAST! We've been to a few show tapings and it is always such a fun time, but this was extra special since Bennet, Kaleb and Kali had no idea what to expect, and they just love the show. We got to take pictures with everyone and it will be something they will never forget. I owe Kathy a world of thanks for making it happen!! I hope my friends know how truly grateful I am for their acts of kindness towards us.
Ok, I can't remember what we did on Friday (maybe that was the day we ate with the Roberts?) ha! But, on Friday night we went to one of our favorite little restaurants called, Sharkey's. It's nothing fancy, but their nachos are SO yummy and I knew Bennet would love that. We let our friends know that we would be there from 7:00-9:00 and asked for anyone who wanted to, to come by and hang out with us. It was so fun to gather there with so many people who have prayed for us during our adoption journey and so many who have given so much to us. Loved getting to visit and catch up with these precious friends that we just don't get to see often enough.
On Saturday we headed to the beach. It was a gorgeous 85 degrees inland, but when we got to Malibu, it was only about 70. Oh my! I should have worn sweats!! It was chilly, folks!! The kids didn't care one bit. They LOVED the beach. They ran around like crazy people - in and out of the water - in the sand, under the sand....they were in heaven. It was so much fun to watch. Courtney Hitchcok and her daughter, Bryce, joined us, as did the Charles and Shada families. OH, but poor Cooper woke up feeling really sick and Brian had to take him to the CVS clinic, where he was diagnosed with Strep. It was such a bummer. He stayed home all day Saturday to rest and get better. We stayed at the beach for a couple hours (and did I mention we had In-n-Out for lunch!!) and then home to get ready for our dinner at the Shada's house.
Our friends, Dean and Linda Shada, let me invite a group of people over to their home for dinner Saturday night. I just love them. I love knowing that they wouldn't mind at all if we invaded their home. True friends! I made White BBQ chicken and Dean grilled it for us and then everyone else brought a side dish. In addition to the peeps at the beach, the Gipson family joined us and it was so great getting to spend a little time with them! We all had such a nice time visiting and catching up and, of course, eating!! Man, I love my friends.
And, the blessings from friends just kept on coming.
To be continued...
However, I thought that both days were going to be 15ish hours of driving...lo and behold, the second day was 17ish hours. Fun stuff right there. So, after 17ish hours of driving that day, we made it to California. People asked me why we didn't divide it into three days, but honestly, we just wanted to kick it out and get there. I have family in Oklahoma so we could have stayed there, but then it would have been getting it all out of the car and putting it all back...nope, just decided to suck it up and go for it. Cooper help Brian a little with the driving, so it just really wasn't that bad.
**inserting an important note** As soon as we found the first In-n-Out burger on our journey, we stopped and ate there! We absolutely LOVE In-n-Out and thank the Lord, the new kids do, too. It would have been tragic had they not. ha!! Crisis averted.
Now, I have to tell you that we had THREE people offer to let us stay with them so that we didn't have to incur hotel expenses. Isn't that amazing! Friends that offer to let SEVEN of you stay in their home are true friends, indeed! Our awesome friend, Laura, actually moved out of her house and into another friend's house so that we could have her place to ourselves and nobody would have to sleep on the floor. Can you believe how wonderful my friends are!!!
We hit the ground running in CA and it was first things first - a trip to the salon to get hair cuts for everyone. We have a great guy in Tennessee that we use, but we also adore our girl, Ivonne, out there, so we wanted to not only stop in and see her, but also let her make us all beautiful for our time there. We rotated in and out of her place and figured out which of our favorite eateries we would hit first. We decided on Philippe's in downtown Los Angeles, which is famous for their dipped beef sandwiches. They are SO good and I crave them often. Our friends, the Shada family, joined us for lunch and it was wonderful to see them AND have a delicious lunch!
It was really great cause we were there on a Wednesday and Cooper was very excited to go to Wednesday night youth group. We are so blessed to have fabulous churches both here and there and the kids are active at both. Cooper has often led worship for the youth group out there and was thankful to get to hang with his buddies that night. On one of the days (I just can't remember which one) we had lunch with the Roberts family. Dave is the pastor of our church out there (Montrose Church) and his wife, Cyndi, is a sweet friend of mine, and their two youngest daughters, Sunni and Brandi, are friends with Cooper and Gatlin. They treated us to a delicious Chinese lunch and I was so glad that we got to spend a little time with them and that they got to meet the new kiddos!
Thursday was a busy day because we were blessed by a professional photographer named, Deidhra Fahey, who offered to take pictures of our family for FREE. This one brought me to tears because I have been wanting new pictures so badly, but just haven't been able to spend the money on it right now. So, when my friend told me that Deidhra wanted to gift us with a photo session, I was just blown out of the water. A true blessing from God. Honestly, I'm not making enough of this....I had been thinking about this pretty much every day for a long time cause we just don't have very many pictures of the new kids in our house. Honestly, we don't have a lot of pictures of anyone, but we do have a couple large pictures of Cooper and Gatlin from when they were younger and I've been wanting to replace those with a family picture and then individual pictures of each of the kids. But, like I said, that costs money, and when you've just adopted three kids, there's not much (if any!) left over...so, we just haven't been able to look into getting pictures made. Deidhra blessed our socks off. She took individual pictures of each of the kids, and then the five of them together and then our family. THEN, to top it off, she asked if Cooper and Gatlin could come back another day so that she could take head shots of them for their acting!! The pictures she took are AWESOME! I will admit to breaking down like a baby and crying in her den when I saw them. It blows me away when people do stuff like that as a blessing for me. It is just so humbling. I can't express the gratitude I have for Deihdra and the blessing of the pictures.
From there we went straight over to a studio taping of the Disney XD show, "Pair of Kings". My friend, Kathy Musso, got tickets for us to see the taping and meet the entire cast. Honestly, could I be anymore blessed by my friends, I don't think so!! What a BLAST! We've been to a few show tapings and it is always such a fun time, but this was extra special since Bennet, Kaleb and Kali had no idea what to expect, and they just love the show. We got to take pictures with everyone and it will be something they will never forget. I owe Kathy a world of thanks for making it happen!! I hope my friends know how truly grateful I am for their acts of kindness towards us.
Ok, I can't remember what we did on Friday (maybe that was the day we ate with the Roberts?) ha! But, on Friday night we went to one of our favorite little restaurants called, Sharkey's. It's nothing fancy, but their nachos are SO yummy and I knew Bennet would love that. We let our friends know that we would be there from 7:00-9:00 and asked for anyone who wanted to, to come by and hang out with us. It was so fun to gather there with so many people who have prayed for us during our adoption journey and so many who have given so much to us. Loved getting to visit and catch up with these precious friends that we just don't get to see often enough.
On Saturday we headed to the beach. It was a gorgeous 85 degrees inland, but when we got to Malibu, it was only about 70. Oh my! I should have worn sweats!! It was chilly, folks!! The kids didn't care one bit. They LOVED the beach. They ran around like crazy people - in and out of the water - in the sand, under the sand....they were in heaven. It was so much fun to watch. Courtney Hitchcok and her daughter, Bryce, joined us, as did the Charles and Shada families. OH, but poor Cooper woke up feeling really sick and Brian had to take him to the CVS clinic, where he was diagnosed with Strep. It was such a bummer. He stayed home all day Saturday to rest and get better. We stayed at the beach for a couple hours (and did I mention we had In-n-Out for lunch!!) and then home to get ready for our dinner at the Shada's house.
Our friends, Dean and Linda Shada, let me invite a group of people over to their home for dinner Saturday night. I just love them. I love knowing that they wouldn't mind at all if we invaded their home. True friends! I made White BBQ chicken and Dean grilled it for us and then everyone else brought a side dish. In addition to the peeps at the beach, the Gipson family joined us and it was so great getting to spend a little time with them! We all had such a nice time visiting and catching up and, of course, eating!! Man, I love my friends.
And, the blessings from friends just kept on coming.
To be continued...
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